That was so painful and helpful. I went through stage three aggressive breast cancer six years ago and everything that goes with it, while a friend of mine went through the final stages of uterine cancer. I guess I was more like you, although I put short updates on FB because it was easier to keep people informed that way than to actually talk about it. She was more like your friend, bubbly all the way to our last visit on the night she died, just before my reconstruction. She was active on FB but her husband chose to keep some of us informed via email, and he hasn’t posted on her account since. I go back to her page on her birthday and send her a message each year, which apparently breaks the ice for others to drop her a comment.
I suppose there is no right or wrong, just whatever helps you get through it. I’m so sorry for your loss, and so glad you’ve emerged on the other side of it.